Ladies, we’ve seen the films.
There’s always the mean girl who's a bit of a bitch, but she’s popular, pretty and gets whatever she wants... including the fit guy that everyone fancies.
The mean girl prerequisite is that she treats people like crap and will stop at nothing to get what she wants.
In fact, she’ll take any action necessary (even if it makes her unlikable), to get the prize she’s after.
But there’s also the nice girl in this story too.
She’s the invisible one. Usually she's also a compliant high-achiever who never causes problems. She also doesn't get noticed and is often overlooked.
In spite of this, the one thing the nice girl ALWAYS has going for her is that she’s kind. In the movies, the nice girl usually triumphs over the mean girl because well, being nice wins right?!
In reality, most stories don’t play out this way.
The nice girl usually remains nice, but she doesn’t always get the guy, or triumph over evil or get the things she wants in exactly the way she wants them.
Why?
Because she’s the one in the shadows letting the more dominant people take centre-stage.
She’s the one sacrificing her own happiness for the happiness of others... even if it means her needs get overlooked and sometimes completely trodden on.
She’s the one who’s reliable, helpful and dependable, but deep down not living the life she truly desires.
Maybe you can relate to being the nice girl in the story?
Perhaps there's even a part of you that wishes things could be different?
If only you could kick ass like a mean girl and make things happen in your life, without having to be mean.
I lived like the nice girl for years until I realised that it wasn't going to get me closer to the life I wanted.
So what’s the difference between the mean girl and the nice girl?
The mean girl never compromises on her own happiness.
Like a cat stalking its prey, she’s crystal clear on what she desires and she just goes for it.
She doesn’t waste time and energy worrying about what people think of her. Instead, she puts that energy into creating her own version of freedom and makes life work for her.
Being mean isn’t a prerequisite of getting things done, or getting what you want though.
The truth is, it's entirely possible to make things happen in your life and still be a kind person.
You can know what you want and never settle for anything less, because you know you're worthy of it AND STILL BE KIND.
It's also possible to step out from the sidelines so that you're seen & heard and you don't have to be mean in order to do it.
When you know your true value and worth, you can stand in it and own it without worrying about what people think of you.
And when my clients realise they can kick ass without having to be the mean girl, it changes everything for them.
Things that were previously out of reach, suddenly become possible.
If you’re tired of being the ‘nice’ girl, I'd love to chat to you.
Book a free discovery call and let's get you what you truly desire.